We’re all trying to find meaning in this world, some more than others. But the only thing that has ever given me purpose was the love of my life. We met at the age of 18 and have been inseparable since: you could call us soul mates in every way imaginable. Yet, there are five important life lessons that our unaltered pair taught us and I still don’t know where I’d be without them. What does unaligated mean? Answer: to not be altered, or changed in any way. Learning can often be difficult, but it can also be a rewarding endeavor. There are many things we take for granted every day that others have to learn by painstakingly memorizing them in school. And while we don’t condone skipping classes or breaking the rules, there is something to be said about the ways one can learn without going through the traditional chain of events.
Nothing teaches us anything better than life itself. As such, there are a few important lessons that were never spoken of or researched to the extent they deserve. These lessons are as profound as anything you might learn in an economics class, but we’re not sure we’d ever find these in a history textbook. It’s like the gold at the end of some long and winding tunnel: We just don’t know about it.
5 Important Life Lessons Word Unaligated Taught Us :
1. Acceptance :
There is no perfect couple. I know that sounds cliché but it’s true. No matter what, you will fight and disagree; life isn’t perfect and neither are we. The most important thing to remember is that the two of you are on the same team and fighting isn’t always a bad thing as long as it doesn’t become a pattern.
If you can accept that, you’ll have an easier time coping when things don’t go your way. It’s not about being a pushover or letting your loved one take advantage of you, it’s just about understanding that sometimes people are upset for reasons we can’t fully understand; and the only way to come together is to accept those things.
2. Equality :
This is a hard one for us humans. We like to think that certain things are the man’s job or the woman’s job. But in a relationship, those lines blur and everything becomes a team effort. You might disagree beyond this point, but I promise once you’re married, you’ll see what I mean. And girls, your man may never want to do laundry but he will always help unload the dishwasher and wipe down the kitchen countertops.It’s not a chore you’re doing, it’s helping your partner be the best they can.
3. Resolve :
If we have the ability to make mistakes, so do our mates. We should never be afraid to admit that we made a mistake; it’s what allows us to grow. When you are in a relationship, it’s important that you realize that your partner is not defined by the things he does wrong or what he does right. We all have flaws and none of us know how not to make mistakes. The only way to move forward is to resolve those things and accept your mistakes before you can move on.
4. Trust :
Again, part of being in a relationship means that we are equal. In order to be truly in love with someone, you have to trust him and vice versa. You can’t live with someone who is always lying to you because it will destroy your trust. Our relationship has been stronger than ever because we are willing to accept each other’s faults and our flaws become a source of humor when they’re pointed out by our spouses.
5. Loyalty :
You’re married. You’ve been together for a while, and you have a child. It’s only natural to want to test the limits of your relationship in order to be sure that it will last. This can be done by both of you living a different life from the one you had before you were married. Our unaltered marriage has lasted longer than most because it was built on trust and mutual respect for each other’s decisions and preferences. Our differences are what make our relationship interesting, not a weakness.
Bonus : Commitment :
Some people become more specialized in their skills after marriage. For instance, if you’re a plumber, you could always go back to school and get your masters degree and become a master plumber. But we had to learn everything on the job; that’s what marriage is all about. And so I can’t speak for my wife, but the only thing she ever learned was how to be a better wife and that’s all our relationship needed: someone to make it stronger.